some of you might be wondering about that. Where does Dave fit into all of this? What is going on with him?
So, it was good to see him yesterday. It was the first time we had seen each other since the “bad phone call” 3 weeks ago. It is hard to comprehend how much has happened since that day. Honestly, we still haven’t talked a lot about his diagnosis, and what this all means. I am sure that we will, as time goes on. Right now, in true Dave fashion, he is busy busy busy, unpacking and organizing. No time to sit and talk about unpleasant issues like surgery and colostomy bags etc. But, have no fear, that will come, later this week, we are heading out to see some friends that live about an hour away, and he will be trapped in the car. I will bide my time.
Right now, this is what we know:
It is early, and that is good. He will have surgery to remove what they can from the rectum on August 21st and will be at home for about 2 1/2 weeks to recover after that. When he recovers from that surgery, there will probably another surgery, this one to remove the upper portion of the rectum and attach what is left to the colon. This course of action should allow Dave to retain function and aviod a permanent colostomy bag. That would be great.
We don’t know what treatment will look like after the surgery at this point. The surgeon is expecting that the removal of the bad cells and the upper part of the rectum will be all that is needed at this point. That would be wonderful.
It is still scary, at least for me, but better. The next couple of months will be long and difficult, for all of us. But mostly for Dave. I think he is denying how this will affect him. He keeps saying it is “no big deal”, but it is. And the surgery and recovery will be painful, and probably humiliating. And then he will be ok, and for that we are both really thankful.